Hi,
What you posted is the correct situation description:
Normal situation: (HARNESS-F) - (M - ECU)
New situation: (HARNESS-F) - (M)_(F) - (M - ECU)
So, I believe I posted a link to an Ebay seller offering a spare harness, IIRC. You will need a source for the male and female connectors. I am not sure these are off the shelf parts that you can find at an electronics supply. The TE Connectivity connectors you linked to are for PCB edge connectors, which is incompatible with the ECU connector. The Jetronic ECU is used on a variety of '80s automobiles -- BMW, Volvo, Audi, etc. You might be able to find a donor ECU plug and mating harness from a junk car. An alternative would be to extend the harness by cutting the existing harness and grafting in a extension. That will take soldering and electronics skills as there are 25+ wires to extend.